terça-feira, 30 de abril de 2013

Lições para a Vida

"Bill Gates foi convidado por uma escola secundária para uma palestra. Chegou de helicóptero, tirou o papel do bolso onde havia escrito onze itens. Leu tudo em ...menos de 5 minutos, foi aplaudido por mais de 10 minutos sem parar, agradeceu e foi embora em seu helicóptero. O que estava escrito é muito interessante, leiam:

1. A vida não é fácil — acostume-se com isso.

2. O mundo não está preocupado com a sua auto-estima. O mundo espera que você faça alguma coisa útil por ele ANTES de sentir-se bem com você mesmo.

3. Você não ganhará R$20.000 por mês assim que sair da escola. Você não será vice-presidente de uma empresa com carro e telefone à disposição antes que você tenha conseguido comprar seu próprio carro e telefone.

4. Se você acha seu professor rude, espere até ter um chefe. Ele não terá pena de você.

5. Vender jornal velho ou trabalhar durante as férias não está abaixo da sua posição social. Seus avós têm uma palavra diferente para isso: eles chamam de oportunidade.

6. Se você fracassar, não é culpa de seus pais. Então não lamente seus erros, aprenda com eles.

7. Antes de você nascer, seus pais não eram tão críticos como agora. Eles só ficaram assim por pagar as suas contas, lavar suas roupas e ouvir você dizer que eles são “ridículos”. Então antes de salvar o planeta para a próxima geração querendo consertar os erros da geração dos seus pais, tente limpar seu próprio quarto.

8. Sua escola pode ter eliminado a distinção entre vencedores e perdedores, mas a vida não é assim. Em algumas escolas você não repete mais de ano e tem quantas chances precisar até acertar. Isto não se parece com absolutamente NADA na vida real. Se pisar na bola, está despedido… RUA!!! Faça certo da primeira vez!

9. A vida não é dividida em semestres. Você não terá sempre os verões livres e é pouco provável que outros empregados o ajudem a cumprir suas tarefas no fim de cada período.

10. Televisão NÃO é vida real. Na vida real, as pessoas têm que deixar o barzinho ou a boate e ir trabalhar.

11. Seja legal com os CDFs (aqueles estudantes que os demais julgam que são uns babacas). Existe uma grande probabilidade de você vir a trabalhar PARA um deles."
 
Referência: palestra de Bil Gates circulando no facebook (fonte não checada)

terça-feira, 2 de abril de 2013

15 Things to give up to be happy

 This is indeed a brilliant article and needs to be read again and again ...

1. Give up your need to always be right.
There are so many of us who can't stand the idea of being wrong wanting to always be right even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain for us and for others. It's just not worth it. Whenever you feel the urgent need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question from Dr. Wayne Dyer:¬ Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind? What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control.Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you - situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, co-workers, or just strangers you meet on the street just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
By letting it go, it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning. Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame.
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don't have, for what you feel or don't feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk.Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don't believe everything that your mind is telling you, especially if it's negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
¬ The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive. ¬ Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible.From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
 A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind.¬ Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining.Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things people, situations and events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It's not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism.Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others.Stop trying so hard to be something that you're not just to make others like you. It doesn't work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you're not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change.Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change, don't resist it.
 Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls. ¬ Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels.Stop labeling the things, people or events that you don't understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open.The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don't know anything about.¬ Dr. Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears.
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn't exist, you created it. It's all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
 The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.¬ Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses.A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck and lie to ourselves, using all kind of excuses - excuses that 99.9% of the time, are not even real.

13. Give up the past.I know, I know. This one's hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening. But, you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for, the past that you are now dreaming about was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all, life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment.This is a concept that, for most of us, is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too (it still is), but it's not impossible. You get better and better at it with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things (and that doesn't mean you give up your love for them because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another. Attachment comes from a place of fear, while love, well, real love is pure, kind, and selfless; where there is love there can't be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot co-exist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words

15. Give up living your life to other people's expectations.Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them; they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them; to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people's expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need and eventually, they forget about themselves.¬ You have one life, this one right now, you must live it, own it, and especially don't let other people's opinions distract you from your path.
 


Referência: by FinerMinds Team
This article was written by one of our very own Mindvalley Team members, Dana, and is a piece from the heart.
Dana is the Product Development Manager for Mindvalley and the founder of Purpose Fairy Blog. A student of art, economics, and psychology, Dana¬ draws inspiration from novels by Lao Tzu with The Tao Te Ching to the lives of leaders such as Wayne Dyer and Carl Jung. She infuses life-changing and mind-transforming approaches in the works she does,¬ challenging¬ people to challenge themselves